MAKING YOUR RELATIONSHIP MORE STRONGER

"Relationship is an art"

 The dream that two people create is more difficult to master than one.” It takes days to build a relation and seconds to end it up. Teenagers take pride in declaring their relationship status as “Committed”, but they forget that it needs a lot to flourish committed relationships. Here are some secrets that may help you to bloom up your relation...

Loyal and true commitment:

Relation blossoms where love is unconditional and honest. You don’t have to be secretive, rather show your true emotions, love and care. Secrets ruin the relations, do not allow them to enter yours.

 Admire your partner:

Praises and compliments cheer up everyone. Be appreciative for your partner. You do admire your partner but do let him or her know about it. Praises keep the relations alive and prospering.

 Be considerate:

Yes, you love your partner above all. You feel for him or her genuinely. Let them also know the same. Delight up his senses so that he falls for you again and again. Be considerate when it comes to the comfort of your partner. Do anything to bring that million dollar smile on his face.

 Keep up your promise:

Remember,”Promises are not meant to be broken”. When you promise, you have to keep it up. A lover can forget everything but not a false promise. Instead of ruining your relation by fake promises, It’s better not to commit those promises.

 Respect each other:

Sometimes, love makes you forget everything, even your partner’s wishes and desires. In such situation, your partner might feel suffocated in relationship. Such relations do not last longer. Be more open towards his or her needs. Respect each other feelings and give space for each others opinion.

 Share your passions:

Being different from each other, you might have different interests. What interests your partner may not interest you. But love is all about sharing and caring. Share your passions and interests. Go out for a movie together, enjoy the rides and do whatever that pleases you both.

 Be romantic:

Romanticize your love by making your partner feel the unconditional love you hold for him. Love is like the first rain of the season, showers of love melt away all the bitterness. Romantic expression of love reminds you about the connection you both hold with each other.

 Trust your partner:

Every relationship begins with trust and loyalty. Trust builds up the relation and has the power to ruin it as well. Don’t let it destroy your relation. Develop a bond that rests completely on trust. Don’t assume anything; rather discuss the issue with your partner before you mess up everything.

 Every relationship requires continuous nurturing and attention. These secrets will help keep your relationship strong and everlasting. 

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DOES IT REALLY MATTERS WHO WON OR LOST IN LOVE?

When you think of your past love, you may view it as a failure.

 But when you find a new love, you view the past as a teacher. In the game of love, it really doesn't matter who won or who lost. What is important is you know when to hold on and when to let go. 

You know you really love someone when you want him or her to be happy, even if his or her happiness means that your not a part of it. Everything happens for the best.

 If the person you love doesn't love you back, don't be afraid to love someone else again, for you'll never know unless you give it a try. You'll never love a person unless you risk for love. Love strives in hurting. If you don't get hurt, you don't learn how to love. Love doesn't hurt all the time, though the hurting is still there to test you and help you grow. 

Don't find love, let love find you. That is why it is called falling in love because you don't force yourself to fall. You just fall. You cannot finish a book without closing its chapters. If you want to go on, then you have to leave the past as you turn the pages. Love is not destroyed by a single failure or won by a single caress. It is a lifetime venture in which we are always learning, discovering and growing. 

The greatest irony of love is letting go when you need to hold on and holding on when you need to let go. We lose someone we love only when we are destined to find someone else who can love us even more than we can love ourselves. On falling out of love, take some time to heal and then get back on the horse. Don't ever make the same mistake of riding the same one that threw you the first time.

 To love is to risk rejection; to live is to risk dying, to hope is to risk failure. But risk must be taken because the greatest hazard in life is risking nothing. To reach for another is to risk involvement, to expose your feelings is to expose true self; to love is to risk not to be loved in return. 

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WHY WON'T HE COMMIT? (ASK YOUR HAND IN MARRIAGE)

When it comes to commitment, men can be a mystery.

Perhaps you have heard the words "I am just not ready". Men are human just like women. They do want a special woman they can spend their time with and its not that they don't want to commit. Often its just they have not found that special woman to commit to. The woman that makes him feel alive. The woman that can awaken the hunter instinct and challenge him.The woman that gets him.

Have you ever heard a man say "Its not you, its me"? He may be saying that but what he really means is "Its not me, its you". Chances are good that when it comes to commitment, the problem is you. Now I know that's a tough pill to swallow. You may feel you do everything right and you are an awesome girlfriend. You probably are an awesome girlfriend but that is not necessarily what triggers those deeper feelings in a man. The things you are doing to be a great girlfriend could very well be the things that keep him from committing.

Many women try hard to please a man. Perhaps you offer to help him out. Maybe you cook for him, buy him gifts, do his laundry, try to make his life easier. Maybe the more you do, the less he may seem to appreciate it. The bottom line here is if he wanted a cook and a maid, don't you think he should just go home to his mother? When he thinks of you, do you really want him envisioning you cooking, cleaning and being domesticated? No way! You want him to think of the exiting and sometimes unpredictable woman that you are. He is not going to commit to a woman who acts like his mother, face it. The domesticated activities should come long after you already have the commitment and not a day before.

The number one thing that will stop a man dead in his tracts on his road to commitment is if you attempt to convince him that you are the one for him. Often times a great relationship is extinguished far before it should be by a woman opening her mouth and voicing her feelings on the subject. This is not to say that you should not speak your feelings because you do have to be true to yourself. Its just that men don't want to hear how they should make a commitment. They want to reach this conclusion on their own and in their time. If you are talking about your future and your plans together he is going to run for the hills. Speak less about this issue with a man and you will get you more.

There are things you can do to change his thinking. Its not that you have to change the way you feel, you just have to change the way you react to him and alter your patterns a bit. Don't be so available every time he calls. If he usually calls at a certain time, say 7 or so be doing something. I have often answered the phone with "Hey, can I call you back later? I am at happy hour with the girls". A overnight trip with your girlfriends will do wonders. If he sends you a text I know you are dying to reply, but wait, try to make it an hour. He will spend that hour wondering what you are doing if you usually hit him back immediately. These are small things you can do that can make a big difference.

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EMPATHY - THE KEY TO A GOOD RELATIONSHIP

Empathy is a foundation for communication in a relationship.

The ability for couples to be able to empathize with one another is so very important. If we can't step into one another's shoes or see our loved one's point of view, we will not be able to communicate in a growing manner.

As a relationship author, many of my friends come to me with their issues. Recently my girlfriend Nina told me her boyfriend Mike, became distant after they had a conversation. In that conversation, she asked him one question. She thought it was harmless. It really was. She asked "did he drink every single day". She had noticed he had a few beers when she was over at his house.

His side of the story. He took her question as a warning flag. He thought this was a sign she would be dictating his habits and telling him what to do in the future. In other words, that fear that she was going to try to change him.

Now let's go deeper into the couples history. Mike was married to a very controlling woman. He was allowed one 12 pack of beer per week. Of course he could drink more, but the consequences were high. She would nag, pout and make him miserable. To keep the peace, he kept with the one 12 pack of beer per week, though he is far from alcoholic. Note here also that he would sneak around to drink behind her back if the opportunity presented itself.

Now let's look at Nina's back story. She was married to an alcoholic and an abuser for many many years. She had learned to associate alcohol with unhappiness, though she liked to enjoy a few beers herself, she usually did this in the company of girlfriends.

So you see both partners were fearful because of what happened last time. If they can just step into the shoes of the other and understand where all of this is coming from, the problem can be solved.

Empathy is a foundation for communication in a relationship. It opens the doors to truly understanding your partner.

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