FINDING SOULMATE

A soul mate is someone who has locks that fit our keys, and keys to fit our locks. 

When we feel safe enough to open the locks, our truest selves step out and we can be completely and honestly who we are; we can be loved for who we are and not for who we're pretending to be. Each unveils the best part of the other.

 No matter what else goes wrong around us, with that one person we're safe in our own paradise.

 Our soul mate is someone who shares our deepest longings, our sense of direction. 

When we're two balloons, and together our direction is up, chances are we've found the right person. 

Our soul mate is the one who makes life come to life.

Soul mates are not a pair of people who magically work together in peace and harmony without ever running over rough ground. 

Every relationship has its rough moments, and the key to 'soul mates' is how the couple learns to *deal with* and surmount these difficulties. 

Non-soul mates drive each other away when they fight, and don't learn from the arguments.

 Soul mates figure out what the triggers are, learn to anticipate each other's needs, and as their relationship matures, get to the point where each really understands the other.

Two individuals in a couple are *individuals*, and each person grows at a different rate and in different directions. You want to encourage each other to grow, appreciate how your growth helps you both become better people, and your relationship better because of it.

Soul mates are not 'found' - no person can completely know another person when they first meet. You may *think* you know each other fully, but a lot of that is what you think is true about the other, and not actual fact. 

Soul mates are *built* over a lifetime of love and experience with each other.

One key is to believe in yourself, to believe in your partner, and to believe in the relationship. If you are always considering these three items when making decisions, and are secure that your partner is as well, then you're on your way!

IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP GOOD ENOUGH?......FIND OUT ON OUR NEXT POST..