If you’ve lied in a relationship, though, and are
truly wanting to LEARN to live on the up
and up, what can you do? Well, there’s plenty. Life isn’t over yet. Here’s some
places to start:
• CONFESS. And don’t half confess (just another lie) but
actually confess. This may take some time for you. You may have to sit down
with a pen and paper and write it all down. Your mind will want to lie, but you
have to tame your mind. It may take you some time to even understand what the
truth really is. You’re going to feel ashamed and at risk, but you have to go
there anyway. People are much more kind and forgiving than you think. And if
they’re not, you should confess and find people who are more safe.
• ACCEPT THE CONSEQUENCES. You’re going to have to pay for
your lies. People will not and should not trust you as much as they did before.
However, getting caught in a lie and confessing a lie are two different things.
The former will cost you a bit, but you can rebuild quickly. The latter will cost
you everything. Another thing to consider is that the truth might have lost you
a small battle, but you’d have won the war because in the long run people would
have trusted you. From here on out, be willing to suffer the slight, daily
consequences of telling the truth. You’d be surprised at how much less tension
there is in your life when you walk openly and honestly.
• DON’T EXPECT THE RELATIONSHIP TO BE THE SAME, but if the person doesn’t
forgive you, just know you can move on. You’ve confessed and hopefully
apologized and you aren’t beholden to them anymore. They need to wrestle with
forgiving you and that’s now their burden. It’s an unfair burden, but we all
have to face such things.
• DON’T LIE ANYMORE. It’s not important that
everybody like you or approve of you. Allow people to get used to who you are.
Telling the truth may mean you don’t get to be in control anymore or that
people won’t like you as much. That’s fine. At least they are interacting with
the real you. The deep connections you’ll make from telling the truth are worth
it.
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