For a satisfying, mutually respectful relationship, avoid men who will treat failure to comply with society's expectations of you as a deal breaker. Treat yourself kindly, and look for men who do the same.
1 Be yourself. Once you have the look and style you are comfortable and confident with, just remember to be down-to-earth, honest, and have fun. After all, that is why you are in the game: to have fun and be happy. If you try to adopt a style or attitude to impress someone, they will eventually see through it because you will be constantly preserving a persona, and they will see you as a weak individual. Be happy and confident; there are plenty of great guys out there who will like you for your personality, and in turn you will both be much happier.
2 Show compassion. Studies have shown men are looking for women who show mutual compassion towards them. "People often are attracted to potential mates who they perceive as loving, supportive and secure in their relationships--personality characteristics that most people believe they themselves possess or ideally would like to have.
3 Smile, if you want to project an air of friendliness. Studies show that smiling women tend to be ranked as more attractive.Make sure you know how to smile with the eyes, a.k.a. the “Duchenne smile,” for maximum impact. Smiling is an instant way of looking approachable, which will make men much likelier to strike up a conversation with you. Remember, everyone likes a partner that they can share a good conversation and laughter with.
However, remember you, as a woman, are not required to smile or pretend to be happy for the pleasure of any man. Remember too that your face is not there as an ornament that ought to always look friendly, happy and approachable so that men are attracted to you. If a man cannot take your natural range of emotions then he probably is not worth dealing with.
When you flirt, be subtle. Subtle is better so as to give yourself a chance to see if the other is interested and will reciprocate. If they do not, respect that and move on to conversation that is merely friendly.
Learn how to flirt with body language. Smiling will get a long way if you let it, but like a great dish, it cannot stand alone. Put some other methods on your plate — using your lips, hips, and even eyebrows.
4 Be confident. It's a mutual thing: it's not only the women who like confident men but men too like confident women. Don't mistake arrogance with confidence. Arrogance is a big turn off for most people, but there is a healthy middle ground to be found.
5 Develop communication skills and personal interests. As in any relationship, you have to have something to talk about, and your interests will have benefits for your own life, as well as your relationships. To do this try reading books, taking a class (You might meet that special someone in a class!) or take up a hobby. All these things help build your ability to converse and to keep yourself stimulated.
6 Try to treat everyone in the same manner. Talk to a handsome guy in the same way you would talk to a "not so" handsome guy and vice versa.
7 Be social to meet new people. There's nothing wrong with staying home with late night TV reruns if it makes you happy. However, if you're actively looking to meet and attract new men, you probably won't find them in your living room.
Start small. Go out with a group of your friends when you ordinarily would not. You might meet someone. Finding the right man is a numbers game. If you give yourself more and more chances, eventually it will happen!
8 Seek opportunities to succeed. Do not set yourself up for failure. Men and women both put themselves in situations where they're more likely to fail than not. That's unfortunate, because love is already hard. That does not mean you cannot shoot for the stars; it just means that you cannot complain the world is not fair when your plan does not work out.
Do not take this to mean that you must lower your standards. Do not settle or take less than you deserve from anybody.
9 Try to be optimistic instead of pessimistic. Unless you're naturally pessimistic and don't think you can change, being optimistic will help you feel better about yourself. Women who feel better about themselves attract more men.
10 Look for a man with similar interests. This is particularly important if you are interested in connecting with a partner who wants a long-term relationship. Be sure you both agree on how to trust and share similar ideas when it comes to intimacy, emotional closeness, and intellectual pursuits. You will catch a man and keep him, if you find someone who is similar to your values. If it is a casual fling you are looking for then make sure to ascertain that his sexual values include a respect for consent and an intention to pleasure their sexual partner.
11 Recognise that the beauty standards of today are different from those of the past and will continue to shift through time. This is because beauty standards are socially constructed. Whatever shape your body is, as long as you are happy with it, then it is the right one for you and beautiful in its own right.
12 Groom yourself well. Staying clean and fresh is a must. Bathe regularly and keep your finger- and toenails clean for hygiene's sake. Blemishes are natural and are a sign that you have lived and experienced the physical world and are human. Those that tan should be wary of cancer and those that bleach their skin should know that brown is beautiful and the idea that one must be white to be pretty is a legacy of colonialism or classism much of the time.
13 Wear clothes that you feel yourself in. People often will give you unsolicited advice on how to dress based on how good THEY think you will look and tell you what you can and cannot wear. They are thinking of your body as something for their benefit. You own yourself. Wear what you like.
If you're into baggy jackets or "mens" clothing then go ahead and wear them! Don't let rigid gender boundaries stop you! If dark colours are more your thing then wear them, if bright, possibly mismatching colours are then take pleasure in dressing in those too. This way you will feel better as you are able to freely express yourself rather than bending to what others want.
14 Ask your friends for help. It might sound old-fashioned, but ask your friends to set you up with a guy on a date. Your friends are supposed to know you well. This makes them expert matchmakers, in theory at least!
15 Use the Internet. Try online dating. Make an honest profile of yourself and begin messaging with guys you like. Go out with them on a public date and see if you hit it off. There is nothing wrong with trying and failing, remember? There is all the upside in the world with trying. You could hit a home run.
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