THE DEVASTATING POWERS OF LIES IN A RELATIONSHIP

 LIES AND YOUR RELATIONSHIP

To most people, lying appears to be a breach of ethics. Whether lying to gain unfair advantage over an unknown victim seems clearly wrong. Even "White lies" that people define as being harmless, or even helpful, to the person to whom they are told, isn’t so easy to dismiss as completely unethical. At least some of the lies we tell are indeed intended to be helpful, or at least, relatively benign.

Discovering You Have Been Lied To:

In an interpersonal relationships, the discovery can be traumatic. As we grow closer to others, our expectations about their honesty grow stronger.

Discovering that you've been deceived requires you to redefine not only that lie you just uncovered, but also many of the messages you previously took for granted e.g. was last week's compliment really sincere? Was Everything he/she said in the past really true?

SWEET ENDINGS- is trying to show that deception does, in fact, threaten relationships, not all lies are equally devastating, however, feelings like dismay and betrayal are greatest when the relationship is most intense, when the subject is high, and when there was previous suspicion that the other person wasn't being completely honest. Of these three factors, the importance of the information lied about proved to be the key factor is provoking a relationship crisis.

We may be able to cope with "misdemeanor" lying, but "felonies" are a grave threat. In fact, the discovery of major deception can lead to end of the relationship. More than two-third of the subjects in a study carried out by SWEET ENDINGS, show that their relationship had ended since they discovered a lie. Further more, they attributed the break up directly to the lie.

SWEET ENDINGS has this to say, "if preserving a relationship is important, HONESTY-at least about important matters-really does appear to be the best policy. And remember, ONE LIE ONLY LEADS TO ANOTHER, if you start it, you can't stop it, or contain the embarrassment.

WHAT YOU CAN DO IF YOU HAVE LIED IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP......FIND OUT IN OUR NEXT POST.